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Responding to the Culture of Bullying and Disrespect

Responding to the Culture of Bullying and Disrespect
New Perspectives on Collaboration, Compassion, and Responsibility

Second Edition
Edited by:

October 2012 | 296 pages | Corwin
'The book gives excellent ways to empower children, help them solve their own issues, and give them real strategies that will help them deal with difficult situations in the future'—Elizabeth Barrett, Civics Teacher Clark County Schools, Winchester, KY

Create a safe learning environment so students can achieve!

Bullying is an ongoing concern for students, with as many as half reporting that they have faced aggression or harassment at some point. This updated edition of Breaking the Culture of Bullying and Disrespect provides the tools to successfully respond to bullying and other negative behaviours by creating an environment that discourages negative behaviour and encourages greater responsibility and respect.

The authors offer a comprehensive, therapeutic approach, complete with sample transcripts and activities. Instead of using punitive measures, which can model the very behaviours they are trying to eliminate, educators will discover how to establish a cooperative, caring environment and guide students in thinking about positive alternatives to misbehaviour. This new edition features:

- Updated research, including real-life examples of successful experiences

- Additional case studies and a list of problem-solving questions

- A new chapter on brain research and how children learn

- An all-new section focusing on prevention methods

Empowering, enlightening, and practical, Responding to the Culture of Bullying and Disrespect is a necessary resource for teachers, administrators, and support staff dedicated to promoting respect, tolerance, and responsibility in their schools.

Foreword by Honey Berg
About the Authors
Part I. Laying Foundations
1. How Problems Develop: A Frog Story and a Shift in Perspective
Lessons From This Story

Useful Options Are Also Eliminated

Does Everyone Have the Same Contextual Blocks?

2. Are Problems of Disrespect Inadvertently Supported?



Achievement at All Cost


3. Unraveling Assumptions: Educators' Roles and Students' Behaviors
The Effects of Myths and Assumptions

Common School Questions: New Ways of Thinking

4. Responding Effectively to Problems
A Fresh Attitude

Chipping Away at the Problem With a Powerful Tool: Externalization

Dealing Narratively With Disrespect and Bullying

A Narrative Response

Additional Options

Summary of the Practice of Externalizing

Common Questions About the Externalization Process

5. Being Respectful and Open to Students' Experiences
Defining Experience

Experience of School

Overlapping Experiences of the Problem

Addressing These Experiences

6. Making Changes Last for More Than a Week
The Dandelion Problem

Thinking Outside the Box

Multiple Selves: Who Is the Real Person?


Creating Stories Through Language

Mentally Filling the Blanks

Perspectives Create Stories

An Educator's Question: If Truths Don't Exist, How Do We Know Which Story to Trust?

Audience: You Are Who You Are Perceived to Be

The Thread of New Stories: Recapitulation

Reauthoring Alex's Journey

Common Teacher Questions: New Ways of Thinking

Part II. Applications and Examples: Success Stories of Overcoming Bullying and Disrespect
7. Listening to Students' Voices
Disrespect/Bullying Survey

Interviews: Walking in Students' Shoes

8. Cultivating Respect, Appreciation, and Tolerance in the School




Community and Diversity

Respect and Shedding Adultism

Teacher Question About Shedding Adultism

9. Dealing With Disrespect and Bullying in the Classroom: The Bugging Bug Project
A Review of the Narrative Ideas That Guide This Project

Section 1: Externalizing the Problem

Section 2: Building on Successes

Section 3: Celebration of Knowledge and Expertise

Brief Summary of Classroom Facilitation Considerations


10. Working With Individual Students Around Bullying: Helping a Child Suffering From a "Bullying Spell"
A Problem-Dominated Identity

Rewriting the Story in a Vacuum

Rewriting the Story in the Community

A Past to the Preferred Story at School

A Past to the Preferred Stories at Home

Extending the Audience to the Preferred Story


11. Brain and Behaviors: How Young People Change and How Educators Can Help
The Visible Story

The Invisible Story

The Contextual Story

The Historical Story

Dead-End or Future Possibilities?

The Possible Future


Part III. Prevention: Scaffolding a Complex and Sound Culture of Respect
12. Creating a Partnership With Response-able Youth
Bubble Trouble

Lessons From This Story: The Beliefs

The People

The Relationship

Teacher Questions

13. Spotlight on Stories of Successful Prevention
Story 1: "You're Ugly"

Story 2: The Clipboard

Story 3: Sign Language

Story 4: The Violent Drawing

Story 5: Girls' Meanness

Story 6: The Brand New Atlas

Spotlight on a School With a Successful Prevention Model

Resource A: Glossary
Resource B: Summary Table of Strategies
Resource C: Discourses
Resource D: "Yes and" Exercise
Resource E: Educators' Problem-Solving Questions

“The authors present respectful ways for dealing with bullying and disrespect, something that most educators, therapists, and parents will welcome.”

Virginia Miller, Counselor
Jessieville Middle School, AR

“The book gives excellent ways to empower children, help them solve their own issues, and give them real strategies that will help them deal with difficult situations in the future.”

Elizabeth Barrett, Civics Teacher
Clark County Schools, Winchester, KY

"Provides educators with positive and realistic approaches to help alleviate bullying and disrespect in schools."

Melissa Amison
School Social Work Journal, September 2010 (Vol. 35, No. 1)

"This book is a well-organized, easy-to-understand resource to help teachers make appropriate accommodations for children displaying a variety of difficult behaviors."

Kathryn Lohmeyer
School Social Work Journal, September 2010 (Vol. 35, No. 1)

Written for a broader age group, this new expanded edition provides readers with inspiring ideas in two new areas: First, how to use the fascinating findings from brain research to respond more effectively to existing difficult situations; Second, how to pro-actively prevent the development of relationship problems in the current world of bustling school cultures. Drawing from social research and neuroscience, this edition provides not only thought provoking insights into the thinking of students who struggle with various problem behaviors and how to help them, but also effective ways to cultivate their personal preference for respect in the school community. Rather than attempting to over control students, educators are invited to assist young people in the development of their own intrinsic motivation to be respectful. More specifically, this book provides concrete ideas to reduce the development of underground resentment, and, encourage students to make choices based on their personal values. This is done by providing a number of real life scenarios and respect promoting responses, transcripts of conversations with students who "hate" or "don't care", interviews with successful teachers, solutions to tricky situations, fun classroom activities, examples of programs and the detailed profile of a public school with low bullying rates. A particular emphasis is placed on changing problematic interactions that repeat themselves over and over again between either groups of students or a specific student and an educator. Ways of changing these pervasive patterns of interaction and avoid their escalation throughout the school year are discussed, as well as ways to develop more constructive and collaborative ways of relating.

With three new chapters loaded with strategies and creative ways of supporting positive changes, this book offers a realistic understanding of problems and many possibilities of actions to help all students become more response-able and respectful.

In sum, this new revised 2nd edition contains the material of three books in one: 1. The socio-cultural understandings of relational problems such as bullying and disrespect, 2. Effective and brain congruent ways of responding to such issues without damaging the precious educator-student relationship; and 3. Proactive ways to prevent relationship problems from escalating in a school community. This is an ideal book for educators and counselors who are interested in learning new skills to bring the best out of each and every person in the school regardless of their struggles, age, gender, race, and ethnicity. When adults and students co-create a culture of respect, collaboration, compassion and responsibility, schools can finally become safe places for learning.

Marie-Nathalie Beaudoin

Marie-Nathalie Beaudoin, Ph.D. is the Training Director of the Narrative Therapy program at Bay Area Family Therapy Training Associates (BAFTTA) where she supervises the counseling of doctoral interns in schools from three school districts in Silicon Valley, California. In her private practice, she enjoys working with young people, their families, and their schools, on a wide variety of issues. Marie-Nathalie values bringing forth people’s own wisdom and knowledges, through respectful, creative, and collaborative conversations.  She has published numerous professional articles, has been featured in several magazines such as the... More About Author

Maureen E. Taylor

Maureen Taylor is an educator in Northern California. Her background includes teaching preschool through sixth grade and being an environ­mental educator. Her main interests lie in teaching science and writing, two subjects that gently unfold for the learner. Taylor is currently devel­oping a program for children blending art, environmental education, and social issues. More About Author

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